For decades I struggled to manage how people saw me. I was afraid they would judge me inaccurately and if that happened,  they would treat me wrong, abuse me or reject me. That compulsion was rooted deep in fear not in purity of relationship. It was selfish and self serving & preserving. I hated myself for being so easily manipulated and controlled by what others thought of me and what I thought they thought of me. It’s a vicious cycle that is now broken. It’s exhausting trying to control what others think of you because the truth is it’s impossible to do.  You’re not truly controlling what they think of you because they’re going to think what they want. It’s an illusion. So I want to encourage you… S T O P!! Just stop!!! You’ll feel much better❤